I feel moved to talk about slowing down this week. This week I have felt my all time slowest. It has been blissful. Like I am walking around in a meditative state with my children, strolling through the day. I was pulling out of the supermarket and actually had the thought "I feel like I am on holiday". It seems my chill out days from the previous week have merged into normal days. Children have been playing really really well. I have been pottering, the days have felt slow and spacious and I have surprisingly got a lot achieved in the day without any pressure to. Even feeling more energy at the end of the day.
This hasn't just happened. Each year I have felt slower and slower. It has been a process of slowing down with a lot of conscious intention and choices. Some big choices. Since having my first born I have put my career on hold at its peak, dropped out of instructor training, given away my business (I didn't feel like I was doing either my work or my mothering well and therefore wasn't enjoying either), I put life coaching study on hold - for 5 years!, moved to the country, well! into the countryside and decided to homeschool. These choices are not for everyone of course, but just to say that big choices were made.
This week I came across a fb page called Becoming Unbusy which I thought sounded great. I feel it's something so hard for us to do. Now a days we start out in motherhood at the peak of careers, studying courses and with a busy lifestyle. We start motherhood burnt out! and often still racing and not knowing how to slow down. Combined with not having villages or nearby family, motherhood can understandably be overwhelming. What's more is the fast multitasking pace lingers in us, in our energy field that our children are wrapped in and carried along in all day. It's almost like this is an accepted norm now, however something in me says it's not supposed to be like this. Not even in our modern world.
The book Simplicity Parenting is a great book to explain why it's so important, for our childrens' sake, to slow down and gives a blueprint how to do so. There are even life coaches specialising in Simplicity Parenting now. How good!
Apart from my big life choices, here are some small things I have done to help slow down:
* Sticking to 2 outings/activities a week, at least every second day at home for my pre schoolers. I sense that is enough for them and what they need. They love being at home.
* Minimal non plastic (non flashy lights or beepy) open ended toys. The toys in our playroom have been there for years. Being quality wooden they last. The way they change and get better is only through imagination. Minimal tv. My children have never said they are bored. I wouldn't worry if they did. Boredom is good. It exercises and stretches the brain, develops the imagination, the basis of intelligence (lateral thinking, creative solutions). When they exercise their play muscles, it is amazing. They get better and better at playing.
* Sticking to our daily and weekly rhythm.
* Keeping admin for a Monday.
* Grounding myself. Bare feet in the sandpit or grass, weeding,
* Getting out of my head and into my body. Downward dog here and there when I can.
* Lots and lots of moments taking a deep breathe, down to my solar plexus. Flushing out the anxiety in my chest.
* Meditating feeling tension and emotions in my body.
* Having a cup of tea. I don't actually like tea that much but I like the feeling of a hot cup in my hands.
* I walk slowly.
So I ll enjoy this moment while it is here. I encourage mothers to embrace slowness. It's not lazy, it's healthy ....for everyone. Clarity and inspiration flow into the space. Mothers have crystal clear clarity on the lifestyle you want and take steps big or small towards it. 🙏🏻💕