Protecting and nurturing the energy of the mother is my hearts intention.
When I was pregnant with my first, I immediately felt that I should be conscious of "my energy". My feelings, stress levels, busyness, emotions. I lay down on my verandah and did some meditation. "There. I ll do that each day". What I didn't realise was the conscious effort, choices and sometimes sheer strength I would need to guard, protect and nurture my energy through pregnancy and throughout motherhood. I didn't even fully realise the deep importance of it.
It is quite well known now that baby feels your emotions. Your emotions are their environment, like the air we breathe. I love the image of the Madonnas Cloak. "After birth there is changes in the mothers psychological life, ... an intensification of feeling, an out pouring of warmth and protectiveness that ripens into true mothers-love. ..... This out streaming of a mothers soul is pictured as forming a protective cloak around the baby, a Madonna's Cloak, raging out into the environment and affecting the whole atmosphere surrounding the child. Within the cloak there are the weaving of colours, warming, radiant and light filled (or perhaps dull and murky depending upon the quality of the mothers soul life). For the young child the Madonna's Cloak is a spiritual reality for the first three years... Sharing fully her soul life..... It is an intimate relationship, and each subtle change of mood brings a different nuance of colour and tone. The father weaves his own colour and tone Into the cloak. ..... Even doing the wrong thing does no harm provided the Madonna's Cloak is full of warmth, light and lovely colours. ... The quality of the Mothers Cloak is prepared during pregnancy as the mother prepares her soul." (From The Incarnating Child by Joan Salter).
It would be lovely to float around for 9 months of our pregnancy in a meditative state feeling nothing but Peace Love and Oneness to wrap our baby in wouldn't it. But life happens. Work stress, family stress, relationship stress, general busy stress. Although I fully intended to have a peaceful pregnancy, I had to consciously work on my energy during my two pregnancy journeys. Last year when I was having a homeopath consult for my son, he did the most wonderful detailed assessment. He asked questions about my sons birth, his nature, including what food I craved during my pregnancy and what emotions I held in my pregnancy. Well I could answer that last one easily - anger! I carried anger from when I supported my father at the end of his cancer battle and my sister didn't call, month after month until the very end. I tried not to be angry. I tried not to dwell on it. I even tried to have some counselling to deal with it. But it did sit in me, even a year later when I was pregnant. My little baby boy did have an instant 10/10 angry cry since the day he was born and through the toddler and preschool years, intense angry feelings are something he has had to slowly learn to work through. The homeopath says he does see this association a lot.
When I was pregnant with my second I was feeling quite low while navigating a very rocky patch in my marriage. So to help with this, I talked to my baby. I told them how much I loved and wanted them and that I was just trying to work things out. She appreciated me working through my emotions and gave me feelings when she was happy.
Pregnancy is a journey, one that is perfect for our soul., and a great time of growth. We are in "growth mode" as we create and grow a miraculous baby and our intuition is heightening. As we understand it is even more important to be aware, be mindful of our energy and consciously protect our and our babies energy, lots of intention and growth takes place. Preparation. This work is part of the growth needed for the birth and the birth of the mother..
So what can you do? Here are some things you can do to protect and nurture our energy:
Mediate - I like to meditate morning and night. Picturing a beautiful seen and the mother I want to be, until I feel that.
Choose your support circle - make a list of people that nurture you and surround you with positive uplifting energy and connect more with those people
Stand back, be aware and observe others energy that is dragging you into their drama or draining yours. Often this can be a family member. Just being aware can shift its effect on your energy.
Set boundaries if you need to. Lovingly explaining a boundary you now have if you are comfortable to.
Reflect on what is coming up for you and how you are being guided to grow. Is it strength, softness, openness, patience, ....?
Work through any anger. Explore it, write a letter and burn it or talk to someone about your feelings to help process them. Be open to forgiveness coming to you one day rather than being pressured to forgive and forget right now. Some things take time.. .
Slow down and simplify your lifestyle. You will have to do this when baby comes. This can have a huge effect on any anxiety and your energy.
Be kind and forgiving to yourself. Journal and talk to yourself as you would your young daughter.
Communicate with your partner. It might be helpful to explain where you are at and what you are going through. It always helps to feel understood. He could also help protect your energy with family members. This could bring you more closely aligned during birth and early parenthood.
Talk to baby. If you are struggling with feelings this can be calming and reassuring for you.
If you have a baby in your tummy, or are mothering children, it's now time to live mindfully, to nurture and protect your beautiful energy 🙏🏻