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The heart is regarded as the centre of ones thoughts and emotions, especially lovee and compassion. "The heart is what you listen to when you make a decision based on love". Parenting from the heart" is gentle parenting. When you are connected and listening to your heart you will make gentle choices and meet your child's needs. As my doula gave me one piece of advice "Follow your heart and it will a,ways be right for your baby". . Yet these days we are so used to listening to our head.. We weigh things up, struggle with dilemmas,, listen to other people's advice (based on their fears and old views),, begin to self doubt ourself, listen to the "should do's or else this will happen". It is unfamiliar to just go within and drop down into our heart and listen. But this is what we need to do on our parenting path with everything. So let's get connected to our heart.
Here we explore our values and emotions we are holding in our body.
Journal -
Why do you want to have a child? Dig deep, pour out your heart and clarify this. This, is valuable to know, to keep you connected to your heart on your parenting journey.
Coaching -
Connecting to our heart
Complete these sentences:
What is close to your heart?
When have you "had a change of heart"?
When did you loose heart?
When was "Your heart just wasn't in it anymore".
My heart felt desire is .........
My heart broke when .......
I was heartless when I ......
My heart aches for .......
Think of a dilemma you have. My head says to do this but my heart says to do .....
Your Heart values
Here let's get crystal clear on what is in your heart for your child
How were you mothered? ,
what was great, what didn't you like?
what phrases can you remember your parents saying to you?
what were the good memories of childhood? , what were not so good!
what kind of mother do you want to be?
What do you want to instil in your child?
What do you want to instil in your baby?
What wisdom from your life journey would you like to pass on to your child?
what do you hope for your child?
what wisdom has your mother and her journey given you,
what wisdom/lessons has your father and his life journey given you,
What 5 most important values do you have for your baby at this moment in time?
These will be in your heart already wanting to be shared.
How can you begin to instil these now, in your pregnancy?
Clarity on where you are:
where are you right now? If you look at your life as an evolution on a timeline. You can summarise your life on that time line. Where are you up to in life? What are you feeling now? Content, the end of a work chapter, nesting?, healing from..., wanting to move?, resting?, It is ok to feel in limbo. I believevoregnsncy is a cocoon time before you become something else. It is nice to be aware and enjoy that cocoon time. And where do you want to go? Like a map you can't have clarity on where you want to go unless you know where you are emotionally. It is great to have a clear concise clarity on this.
Checking in on husband
How is your husband respinding" to the news of pregnancy! Is he thrilled, beaming with excitement and joy, touching your belly and talking to your baby. If so that is wonderful, you have chosen an evolved husband who sounds like he is very keen and ready for children. If your husband is not all this, that's ok too. It is very common for a husband to be filled with apprehension and fear about fatherhood which will over ride everything else.
When you think about this, it's quite understandable. Firstly they may not have that instinctual clucky drive that women have. They are quite comfortable with their couple lifestyle. Secondly they have a vague awareness that fatherhood is different these days. It's not the image they knew growing up of a father that had little to do with them and was the authority figure. They know they might be expected to bath the baby! hold the baby, But generally, if they were parented the old traditional way, they don't truly know what to expect. They don't have a feeling, memory or knowledge in the cells of their body of what it is to be father. Fatherhood is truly a new frontier for men. Add to this the dreaded lifestyle change that they hear about and you can understand the trepidation that they may feel.
Here are a few questions to help him open up and become a bit aware of where he is at. In the cocooning section, we discuss further how to support each other. It is good to get him to write answers down, rather then just a discussion which can be brushed over.
Entering the new frontier of fatherhood can feel like a big unknown step. We are here to support you in this journey. Here are a few questions to help you gather your thoughts and feelings you will be packing with you on the journey". .
How were you mothered?
How were you fathered?
How would you like to do it differently?
What are your fears about fatherhood?
What values can you give to your child?
How will having a child help you to grow?
Meditation - connecting to your heart
The heart is regarded as the centre of ones thoughts and emotions, especially lovee and compassion. "The heart is what you listen to when you make a decision based on love". Parenting from the heart" is gentle parenting. When you are connected and listening to your heart you will make gentle choices and meet your child's needs. As my doula gave me one piece of advice "Follow your heart and it will a,ways be right for your baby". . Yet these days we are so used to listening to our head.. We weigh things up, struggle with dilemmas,, listen to other people's advice (based on their fears and old views),, begin to self doubt ourself, listen to the "should do's or else this will happen". It is unfamiliar to just go within and drop down into our heart and listen. But this is what we need to do on our parenting path with everything. So let's get connected to our heart.
Here we explore our values and emotions we are holding in our body.
Journal -
Why do you want to have a child? Dig deep, pour out your heart and clarify this. This, is valuable to know, to keep you connected to your heart on your parenting journey.
Coaching -
Connecting to our heart
Complete these sentences:
What is close to your heart?
When have you "had a change of heart"?
When did you loose heart?
When was "Your heart just wasn't in it anymore".
My heart felt desire is .........
My heart broke when .......
I was heartless when I ......
My heart aches for .......
Think of a dilemma you have. My head says to do this but my heart says to do .....
Your Heart values
Here let's get crystal clear on what is in your heart for your child
How were you mothered? ,
what was great, what didn't you like?
what phrases can you remember your parents saying to you?
what were the good memories of childhood? , what were not so good!
what kind of mother do you want to be?
What do you want to instil in your child?
What do you want to instil in your baby?
What wisdom from your life journey would you like to pass on to your child?
what do you hope for your child?
what wisdom has your mother and her journey given you,
what wisdom/lessons has your father and his life journey given you,
What 5 most important values do you have for your baby at this moment in time?
These will be in your heart already wanting to be shared.
How can you begin to instil these now, in your pregnancy?
Clarity on where you are:
where are you right now? If you look at your life as an evolution on a timeline. You can summarise your life on that time line. Where are you up to in life? What are you feeling now? Content, the end of a work chapter, nesting?, healing from..., wanting to move?, resting?, It is ok to feel in limbo. I believevoregnsncy is a cocoon time before you become something else. It is nice to be aware and enjoy that cocoon time. And where do you want to go? Like a map you can't have clarity on where you want to go unless you know where you are emotionally. It is great to have a clear concise clarity on this.
Checking in on husband
How is your husband respinding" to the news of pregnancy! Is he thrilled, beaming with excitement and joy, touching your belly and talking to your baby. If so that is wonderful, you have chosen an evolved husband who sounds like he is very keen and ready for children. If your husband is not all this, that's ok too. It is very common for a husband to be filled with apprehension and fear about fatherhood which will over ride everything else.
When you think about this, it's quite understandable. Firstly they may not have that instinctual clucky drive that women have. They are quite comfortable with their couple lifestyle. Secondly they have a vague awareness that fatherhood is different these days. It's not the image they knew growing up of a father that had little to do with them and was the authority figure. They know they might be expected to bath the baby! hold the baby, But generally, if they were parented the old traditional way, they don't truly know what to expect. They don't have a feeling, memory or knowledge in the cells of their body of what it is to be father. Fatherhood is truly a new frontier for men. Add to this the dreaded lifestyle change that they hear about and you can understand the trepidation that they may feel.
Here are a few questions to help him open up and become a bit aware of where he is at. In the cocooning section, we discuss further how to support each other. It is good to get him to write answers down, rather then just a discussion which can be brushed over.
Entering the new frontier of fatherhood can feel like a big unknown step. We are here to support you in this journey. Here are a few questions to help you gather your thoughts and feelings you will be packing with you on the journey". .
How were you mothered?
How were you fathered?
How would you like to do it differently?
What are your fears about fatherhood?
What values can you give to your child?
How will having a child help you to grow?
Meditation - connecting to your heart